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Here's a post I wrote in January 2016

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We've heard from the agency and from other adoptive parents how it may be difficult to discuss adoption with family and friends. We were told that "they just won't understand." Aaron and I now understand what those people meant. And the longer we're in this process, the more weight and worry I feel. But I think that's why God wants us to rely on Him and to bring our worries and fears to him. Here are some of the questions and responses we got when we told people we're planning to adopt for our first kid:

  • Can you afford it?
  • What if the birthparents take the kid back?
  • Why do you want to adopt your first kid?
  • I'm worried about the birthparents medical history
  • Won't they feel less loved if your 2nd kid is biological?

These are all great questions that we had to ask ourselves as well. Some of these are misconceptions, which we didn't even know. And even with our worries, we feel good about our decision. I think it's great that people ask us questions but there are questions that stir a bit when asked. As long as people ask with a good tone or attitude then I'd be happy to answer them. I'm very wishful thinking. If this adoption really does go through, then our family will never stop hearing these questions. This is something I'll have to learn to get through and be okay not answering others.

I say if this adoption really does go through because even though we're invested already, there's a possibility that we won't be placed. Maybe after 2 years of waiting, Aaron and I will be tired of just waiting. It's hard to say and we won't know until the time comes. We just have to keep praying that if this is God's will, then we have to be patient and trust in Him.